My name is Heather – but my friends call me “Hat”.
Here’s a photo of me:
This is my family:
The loves of my live – my Threeples – are my husband, Nick (a filmmaker)… my daughter, Morgan (9) and my son, Joah (7). You’ll see a lot of them in this blog.
Our home-base / studio / office is currently in Johannesburg, South Africa. But – we love travelling – and we’ll often be on the road for months at a time… (whether locally in South Africa – or internationally… exploring other parts of this wonderful planet).
Before I tell you what I blog about, I suggest you read why I blog. I want to make it clear from the get-go that this blog is about connecting with like-minded people… and NOT about attempting to *convert* people who live – or believe – differently to us.
I am a lover of diversity – and therefore do not expect the world to live like us – or to make the same choices that we have made. Each to their own. Be the best YOU – and I’ll be the best ME. Live – and let live. LOVE – and let live. You get the picture.
This blog is mostly about documenting our journey… telling our story (and my story)… and yes – expressing my opinions.
I’m a Questioner, so – oftentimes, my opinions will evolve as I change and grow. I love connecting… and I enjoy deep, meaty conversations with thinker friends.
I am not a “Knower” kind of person. I do not believe that I have all the answers or understand “The Truth”. I see life as a journey – and, for me, that’s the best part. I like the process of moving, learning and growing. I don’t like stagnation. I don’t like to stay in one spot for long periods of time (whether physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually).
That’s why I’m not a “destination” kind of person. I don’t want to “arrive”. If one has “arrived”… then where does one go from there? How does one grow? It must be very boring to believe that you have “The Answers” to all of life’s big questions. What a dead and stagnant place to exist.
This blog will probably resonate best with the following types of people:
- People who live or think unconventionally
- People dissatisfied with “The Norm” or The Status Quo
- The Curious
This blog will probably piss off the following types of people:
- Those who believe there is only one *right* way to do life.
- Those who believe there is only one *right* religion – or one *right* truth.
- Those who think in very dualistic ways (“black vs white”… “right vs wrong”… “us vs them”)
- Those who are fond of rules, structures, systems and who believe that The Authorities know best.
- Those who believe that there is only one *right* way to educate children.
- Those who believe that they are victims of circumstance.
- Those who don’t like change.
In this blog, I write about:
1. GIVING UP THE RAT-RACE & LIVING NOMADICALLY
Almost 2 years ago, we made a big decision: we wanted to live differently. We were tired of our rat-race-existence… the never-ending cycle of work and debt… the stress… the time spent apart (as a family) – even though we all lived under the same roof.
So – we made the decision to live DELIBERATELY. To live life on OUR terms. We decided that we wanted to:
- Renovate & rent out our house.
- Purge most of our stuff.
- Get rid of debt.
- Travel the world (including our own country and continent) indefinitely.
- Spend our money on experiences and making memories (instead of on *stuff*).
- And… speaking of money… we wanted to make money doing what we loved.
We’ve come a long way with these dreams… and a number of our posts on this blog focus exclusively on “that” part of our lives and journey.
Here’s a few of my favourite posts dealing with our dreams to live differently:
- The Suburban Lie
- What, Where, How – in FAQ format
- The moment when I decided that it was time for our lives to change
- My Bathtub Moment (the moment I knew I needed to shut down my business and change the trajectory of my life)
- It’s not easy to escape (chatting a bit about the challenges of extracting ourselves from the Rat Race)
- This is why I don’t work for a boss
2. UN-SCHOOLING / LIFE-LEARNING / ROAD-SCHOOLING / INTEREST-LED-LEARNING / ALTERNATIVE EDUCATION
Our kids don’t go to school. We follow a different educational philosophy than most people in our circle of friends and in our family.
We blog occasionally about un-schooling and educational reform on this blog. It’s a topic close to our heart. I blog about alternative schooling – NOT because I want to *convert* parents or try to convince others that our way of educating our kids is the *right* way – or that theirs is *wrong*… but rather because I’d love to connect with like-minded sojourners. It’s my way of sending out a ping… my way of saying: “Anyone else out there who resonates with this? Let’s chat!”
I share to connect… not to convert.
Besides, I don’t believe that it’s even possible to *convert* people. Everyone has their own journey to walk… in their own time. And I’m okay with that.
Here’s a few posts about the schooling stuff…
- What I want my kids to learn
- Life Learning in Joburg
- What “school” on the road looks like…
- What world-schooling looks like for our family
- Why I’m encouraging my daughter to start her own business
I blog about travel – and specifically, our family travels. This isn’t a travel blog, per se… but we DO write a lot about travel because… well… we travel! 🙂
- Our 6-week South African Road Trip – the high’s and lows
- Lots of travel stories on this page…
4. LIVING DELIBERATELY
This is another regular theme that pops up on this blog. We believe that life is just too short and precious to waste away “surviving”… “making do”… or “getting by”. We believe in living deliberately and making lots of on-purpose choices about where we want to be and where we want to go (and where we don’t want to be!).
We wasted a lot of life simply plodding along to the march of the Status Quo… and when we eventually decided to re-evaluate our lives, we were shocked at how much of life we had just let happen “to us”… like a Victim of Circumstance… instead of deliberately taking action to steer our lives in the direction of our choosing.
Here’s a post or two…
- Our time is running out
- Here’s the kind of life I advocate for
- What life was like 5 years ago – and what it’s like now
- We choose happiness (or not)…
4. QUESTIONING STUPID RULES AND THE STATUS QUO
Occasionally, I blog about the status quo, and systems that just don’t make sense… and ideas on anarchy… and how I loathe stupid rules (see photo above)… and how I’m continually questioning authority – and the many systems that govern us and tell us what to do (government institutions, religious institutions, education institutions and various other Powers-That-Be)…
Blogging about this kind of thing can be somewhat controversial – and since I’m an introvert (who doesn’t like fighting with people)… I tend to pull away from these topics (that I actually feel rather passionate about)… because I don’t want to get into heated debates with angry people. Now that I’m slowly getting braver – you’ll probably find more and more topics like this popping up on the blog…
- Is there really only ONE way?
- How does your mentality limit your dreams? How does mine?
- Why I feel resentful about my education
5. FIGURING OUT HOW WE CAN BE THE CHANGE…
I’m a recovering Social Entrepreneur. I burned out after launching one too many projects in my attempt to *fix* the world. I’m still coming to terms with the fact that I can’t just wave a magic wand and change the world… and occasionally, I write a post or two that expresses my respective yearning and frustration…
- How a rural village in Mozambique changed me
- How fear tried (and failed) to rob us of life
- 11 things I learned whilst trying to help others
- Another lesson in humility
- Beaches and beauty and wanting MORE out of life…
6. CREATIVE STUFFS
Nick and I are both creative creatures – so it stands to reason that there’s a fair amount of art-stuff on our blog. Considering that illustration, songwriting, cinematography, filmmaking, photography, composing and storytelling are such huge parts of our lives… it’s surprising that there’s not a lot MORE arty posts.
Here’s a few to tell the story:
- It’s taken me 25 years to return to my first love…
- I’ve sorta come full-circle
- An illustrated guide to what I suck at
- Here’s some of my scribblings
7. AND… A FEW PERSONAL STORIES… 🙂
- An illustrated guide to my personalities
- Would the Real Heather please stand up?
- What I now know about myself (only took me 40 years)…
- How much self-editing do we really do?
- These are a few of my favourite things
- How I stopped shaming my body
- 101 Random Facts about Me
So there you have it!
An introduction to this blog! 🙂
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Other than that… enjoy life and be the best *You*… (and I’ll be the best *me*)… X