I have this… issue.

I’m a pretty chilled, easy-going person… and it really takes a lot to raise my blood pressure.   I’m not highly-strung… I don’t like arguing with people… and I’m usually okay just to love and let live.

But one thing I really… really… struggle with (to the degree that it keeps me awake at night because I can’t stop obsessing about it)… is when I’m not got.

Am I the only person who needs so desperately to be “got”… to be “understood”… to be “heard”….? (??)

A good friend of mine recently posted a Seth Godin quote on his Facebook wall which said:

“It doesn’t matter if you’re right, it matters if you’re understood”.

Now – I don’t know what context that comment comes out of… but boy, do those words resonate with me!!

Because honestly… (and I mean this from the bottom of my heart)… I really don’t care much about being “Right”.

I’m a questioner.  I question everything… all the time.  I ponder things.  I chew on things.  And yes – with questioning comes a lot of movement and flow (when it comes to my opinions).  For me… learning and growth and understanding are a journey… a process… they’re not some stagnant zone of “Rightness” or “Wrongness”.  I just don’t see life that way.

I don’t care about being right… AND… I also don’t mind if people disagree with me (and again – I say this from the bottom of my heart).

It is not important that you AGREE with me…  it is important that you HEAR me – that you GET what I’m trying to say.

The one thing that drives me completely bonkers… is when somebody leaps to an incorrect conclusion about who I am – or about what I’m trying to say.

  • And they’ll say:  “So… what you’re actually saying is this…”
  • And I’ll say:  “No!  That’s not what I’m saying at all!!!”
  • And they’ll say:  “It absolutely IS what you’re saying!”
  • And I’ll say:  “No!  You’ve completely misread me!  You’ve completely misunderstood me!  That’s not at all what I’m trying to say!”
  • And they’ll say:  “Don’t try and back track now. Just admit it!  I KNOW what you’re trying to say!  You’re saying this….”

Honestly.

Those kinds of conversations (whether face to face… or through typed words flying across the internet) drive. me. absolutely.barking.mad… (!!!)

I want to tear my hair out… scream blue murder… roll myself in sackcloth and ashes… rip at my flesh… gnaw off my own digits… (well – you get the picture).

Hmm.

Is there anyone else out there that’s like me?  Do you also long to… need to… be got… and when people DON’T get you – and they misunderstand you… and mis-quote you… and jump to (entirely incorrect) assumptions about what they THINK you’re trying to say… do you go as barkers as I do?

C’mon… whispers… you can tell me!