hawaii

The stuff I treasure most about my childhood was the memories we made together. Here’s a pic Dad, Mom, Soo and (16 year old me) in Hawaii. I’ve forgotten a lot of stuff that happened during my teenage years – but I’ve never forgotten that trip…

Stuff that is important:

  1. My family.
  2. My marriage.
  3. Spending time with the people I love the most.
  4. Feeling fulfilled, rewarded and happy in the work that I do.
  5. Being healthy.
  6. Food / shelter (the basics).
  7. Beautiful experiences with my loved ones.
  8. Making memories with my children.
  9. Facilitating and encouraging our children’s growth and development.
  10. Being generous with our lives.
  11. Respecting the planet… and the life that it nurtures.
  12. Respecting LIFE – and not deliberately going out to hurt or harm others.
  13. Deep and meaningful relationships.
  14. Being the change we wish to see.
  15. Learning, evolving, growing…
  16. Being happy – and making others happy too.
  17. Love.

Stuff that isn’t important:

  1. Trying to keep everyone else happy and un-offended (at the expense of our happiness).
  2. Having a neat home.
  3. Being thin.
  4. Being ‘hot’.
  5. Wearing the latest fashions.
  6. Obeying stupid rules.
  7. Driving an expensive car.
  8. Owning the latest smart phone.
  9. Living in a big house.
  10. Status.
  11. What-other-people-think-about-me.
  12. What-other-people-say-about-me.
  13. Having lots of stuff.
  14. Being “successful” in the eyes of others.
  15. Having the kind of job that other people think is important.
  16. Predictability and sameness.
  17. The illusion of ‘security’.
  18. Doing stuff because that’s the way it’s “supposed to” be done.

Stuff that’s important – but with an added disclaimer:

  1. Money.  Yes, we all need it.  Yes, we all want it.  No, I don’t think it’s worth sacrificing your life and happiness for… and I don’t think it’s worth years and years of miserable living.  I’d rather have less money and more quality of life – than more money and less quality.
  2. The Extended Family.  I totally love my parents and my sisters.  Nick loves his family too.  And – of course, there’s lots of aunts, uncles and cousins who are also a big part of our lives.  We love and respect our extended family – but there is a very firm line that has been drawn in the sand:  they don’t get to interfere and dictate how we live our lives.

I’m sure there’s a lot more that I could add to all 3 of these categories… but then this blog will become an essay!

Anything that I’ve missed out?  I’d love to hear some comments from the lurkers out there – what’s the stuff that you feel is important – and NOT important – in your life?